The universe is really testing me, lately.
I finally hear back from a job in New York City, get all excited and prepared for the on-campus interview, and then when I make it on campus, within the first two minutes, I know it’s not the right fit for me. And to be honest, I knew it from the very first email that was sent to me. Call it intuition…?
Regardless, it wasn’t for me. And even though I already knew it before I even stepped foot on campus, I was still disappointed. There I was, in this absolutely gorgeous area of NYC, with everything else a perfect fit, except the actual job I was interviewing for.
Such is life, right?
Surprisingly, when I was telling people about my experience afterwards, the most common questions was, “Would you still take the job if they offered it?”
…what? I don’t understand. Weren’t you listening? I said it wasn’t a good fit, so why would I take it?
[Now, I understand that there is one caveat in this story: adulting. Ugh, it’s the worst. So yes, I understand that reasons why I would take the job include: a competitive salary, a benefits package, insurance, and for no other reason, being offered a job when my current job will be ending very soon. I get all of that. But for the purpose of this blog post, all of that is null and void].
I think that’s one of the biggest differences between our generations today. i.e.:
My dad: Take the job! It’s money! A job is a job! Money is money!
Me: [whiny voice] But it’s not what I love to do!!!!!!
And so on and so forth.
But I’ve been thinking – life is like a shopping spree. Think of your favorite store. Everything always fits perfectly, the price is right. Sometimes, life will be like that. The jackpot. You got the job, you were promoted, you found the love of your life, etc. But then think of your least favorite store – the one you don’t even bother going in…yeah, that one. Nothing ever fits, it’s too expensive, the staff aren’t very nice. Sometimes, life can be like that, too.
Except with life, you don’t really have a choice about which store to walk into.
EXCEPT! And here’s the catch: we do have a choice. We, as humans, have free will and human agency. Aka, the ability to make choices, even in the face of whatever predestined fate there may or may not be.
So, for a very real example, the other day I decided to walk into H&M, which, is usually my jackpot store. But that day, everything seemed to be off. Nothing was fitting right, I wasn’t finding any good sales. I was just about done and ready to walk out of the store when I saw this amazing summer shirt that I fell in love with. Short-sleeved, button down, light blue and navy trims…but of course, the small was too small and the medium was too big, and I just hated it. You all know the feeling, right?
And here’s where I actually get to the point, so get ready.
That H&M shirt didn’t fit, so I didn’t buy it. Why would I? It’s like everything else in life. Does it fit? No? Then forget about it.
Jobs, relationships, friendships, hobbies, activities…literally anything. Why do we spend so much time trying to make things fit into our lives that we don’t even want there in the first place? It’s like trying to fit a square peg into a round hole.
And as my love, role model, inspiration, and sunshine goddess Tori Kelly sings, “It’s just the art of letting you go.” Letting go is an art form. And sometimes, we just need to learn to let go of an opportunity. A friendship. A hobby. Because even though it may be amazing for someone else, if it’s not the right fit for you, than it’s not right. Period.