So I did a thing this weekend. I graduated with my master’s degree in higher education administration! My master’s degree. Wow, I still can’t even really believe it.
This morning I woke up, with a whole day ahead of me, and I realized…I AM FREE!!!
I am free of papers and readings and discussions and assignments.
But who I am kidding? I will miss papers and readings and discussions and assignments.
I’m already dreaming of the day where I get my PhD, or (surprise new thought ahead) – maybe even a J.D.! There are so many options.I love to learn, so being out of school for too long…I’m not sure how that will be. I know I will love the time off. For example, I’m sitting here at Spot Coffee, 100% fully relaxed, writing for fun, with nothing school-related ahead of me. It really is a great feeling. But after a little while, I think I will start to miss the learning aspect of school. The intellectual conversations. The advancement of knowledge and literature.
Graduating anything is a huge accomplishment. And although I know I have worked my tail off for the past two years, I know that none of it could’ve been possible without the people around me. After graduation, I was looking for one or two pictures to post of influential people during my time at UB as a ‘thank you.’ And it was impossible to pick just two. There have been so many people who have made a difference in my life – from professors and staff, to family and friends. Everyone has been so amazing in supporting me to this point in my life, having faith in me even when I didn’t have the faith in myself.
So for that, thank you.
But friends, family, to the village – I must admit – I have no effing idea what I am doing post-graduate. AKA: please stop asking what I’m doing post-grad, unless you want to delve into a one-hour minimum monologue about my purpose and the direction of my life, listening to me talk in circles and ramble and rant forever.
It’s okay to not know what you’re doing, and it’s okay to not know what you want to do…until you become a grown-up and need to start planning your life. As of now, my options are searching for a higher education job in NYC, or moving abroad as an au pair and taking a gap year to travel. I’m only 40% kidding about that second option. I’ve also been considering law school, which is completely new, but that wouldn’t be for another few years, anyway.
And in my decision-making process, I’ve really found the importance of “the village.” I am not someone who can sit by myself and think and think and process and process and think some more until I come up with a plan. I need to talk to anyone and everyone. Now don’t get me wrong, I am still very selective in who I choose to talk with, so if you are one of the lucky hundred, consider yourself honored.
My pieces of advice?
- Celebrate in the moment
- I graduated!!! I can’t let the dark abyss of future things get me down in the moment. Besides, I know that whatever I choose to be, I’ll be a good one.
- Do your research
- I would love to travel for a year, but is that financially feasible? How would student loans work? Am I eligible for a visa? Or if I’m taking the higher ed route…which schools do I apply to? Which jobs do I want? Where do I want to work?
- Live your life
- My new favorite saying: Live your life! *in the way you want to. And if you aren’t causing harm to anyone or anything, including yourself, then go for it. Whatever “it” is. Do whatever you want to do in this moment.
So until next time, here’s hoping that everything works out.