“WHAT IS MY PURPOSE!???!!”
If you haven’t asked yourself that question at least once as a twentysomething, you’re lying to yourself. And from what I’ve gathered from most people I know, that is a question that isn’t limited by age.
A few days ago, I was getting coffee with a friend, catching up, life stuff, etc. And per usual in my conversations lately, it went something like this, “I still don’t have a job, I have no idea what I want to do, I feel lost, I don’t know what my purpose is.”
And my friend simply took a deep breath – inhaled, exhaled – and then asked me two questions.
1. What are your passions?
Well this one is easy for me. I could go on a whole tangent about the social justice issues that I am passionate about and want to advocate for. The problem is, I’m not always sure how to do that (we’ll get to that later). But my passions? Advocating for LGBTQ rights, racial justice, opportunities for youth, access to education…the list continues.
But what are your passions? These are the things that are the spark in your life. Anytime someone mentions one of these things, you get excited and know that you could talk and listen about that topic for hours.
2. What are your gifts?
This one was a little harder for me to answer. My gifts? Well, I’m not always sure about that one. Call it self-doubt, call it lack of confidence. It’s easy to get in the habit of thinking that we aren’t special, or that we don’t have any gifts. When really, the opposite is true. We are all unique and we all have gifts.
Even now as I type this post, I’m doubting my gifts again. But I’m working on one of my gifts right now – writing! I love to write, and I’ve been able to keep this blog for over a year, which makes me think there is some sort of gift there. I also know that I have a talent in connecting with people (I didn’t realize this was a talent until I had some perspective shifting, and I’ve learned that not everyone is able to do that).
So, what are your gifts?
Those were her two questions.
- What are your passions?
- What are your gifts?
The tricky part about this is combining these two. How can you serve your passions while also utilizing your gifts?
Now THAT is the question.
But still, it made me feel better about my current situation. Because at the end of the day, I know I have passions, and I know I have gifts. We all do. And maybe it’s okay if those passions/gifts aren’t being fulfilled 9 to 5, Monday through Friday. That shouldn’t stop me from starting a really cool social justice themed blog, or from volunteering with youth on the weekends.
It’s a big world, people. And I don’t think we will ever find our “one purpose.” I think there are multiple. And as another friend of mine says, “Discourse always provides a course.” So even if we are navigating through the discourse, know that the discourse will always lead to some course. Some path. And for me, that is enough.